Are you taking emotions that don’t belong to you? Sucking them through the air, wrapping them around you like a wool cloak, letting nothing else in. Wearing it as if it was yours in the first place.
When they are happy joyful emotions it can lift you up when you are feeling down and blah. But if it’s not yours you can end up feeling emptier than you were in the first place. Hollow like a chocolate egg. Easy to crack open and see that there’s nothing but emptiness inside.
Sad, angry or depressed emotions are even harder to shake off. They penetrate and lay just under the surface. Thick enough to confuse you into thinking they might be yours.
When I get a surge of any emotion I like to pause, look at it and make sure it really belongs to me. Examine the circumstances. Ask the questions, “Am I really angry?”. “Does this make my heart feel happy and content?”. “Why am I sad?”
“Is this mine?”
If the answer is No, bat it away like a beach ball that has been flung at you. Say to yourself, “Nope. Not Mine”.
You can have empathy for other people. You can feel happy or sad for them. But if you wrap it around your shoulders and pack it through your day, you won’t have the energy to pack your own.
Beach ball. Not Mine. Not today.